Sunday, January 19, 2014
तस्वीर दगा नहीं देती है !
कुछ बात कहें तो क्या कहें !
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
Before Ringing the Bell !!
After a vain try of Hyderabadi Dum Biryani, i was researching on the history of biryani over internet. The zest for marking down my research compelled me to blog it all down. Opened my gmail account to log on to my blog site.The mail at the top of the list was marked "Ring The Bell for IndiChange!" by Indiblogger.
And i was like, what a coincidence i was here to write on my blog and there is a contest calling me. It probably was a sign. As i sit down writing this post with a wretched heart i realize now what it meant.
I thought let me write something on this. But before i or any other like minded individual writing on solutions, does even know the root cause of problem? So I closed down all Dum biryani research and typed in "Why men rape women in India?". Being a NCR resident i think its the first atrocity that comes to my mind.
To my surprise there were lots of articles by psychologists in USA and none came from India. The most prominent were the articles about American Soldiers raping their female colleagues.
One such article was http://inthesetimes.com/article/3848/. And i read more such disturbing articles and did some more research.
All in all following was the central theme of various analysis, statistics and welfare programmes:
1. Misogyny : The word means 'hatred for women', being one of the main reasons for an individual to commit crime against women. This can develop among men whose performances is belittled as a women; "Ladki hai Kya", "ladkiyon ke tarah bhagta hai"; these are just extremely mild examples. Unacceptance of competitive and smart females hurting in male egos is another reason.
2. Damaged Male Psychology : Some experts pointed that history of child abuse could be one of the reasons for the current behavior of a rapist. A person with difficult childhood vents its suppressed anger in form of sexual offence.Did some research and an article posted in 2007 shows that 69% of indian children are abused and >72% of boys are abused. http://skeptic.skepticgeek.com/2007/05/04/indian-child-abuse-statistics-what-can-we-do/
No wonder when they grow up even as a responsible citizen, the damaged psychology instigates the repressed feelings of domination, revenge by sexual assault .
Children witness to domestic violence are also prone to manifestation of abuses in adolescence.
3. Culture: We as indians hold our culture with high regards. We are like ostritches with heads inside sand that such inhumanities are not possible in our culture. Sorry boss, these cruel criminals are part of your culture breeding under your breaths. The male domination mentality fuels more complications. Stereotyping females as housewives was good once, but not now. Independent women are free from social and economic fears hence need not submit to inept male ego. We need to realize that the culture and society also has to evolve.If society constitutionalizes a right, it becomes universally acceptable abolishing any social stigma. The long term solution to this problem starts from blending rationalization in our rigid culture.
4. Weak and Ignorent law: Filing an FIR or incident reporting is a nightmare in India. Even after "Nirbhaya" case we have seen a rising incidents of rape, insensitive remarks by police, politicians. The women help line nos are a show piece. When the law itself is making a joke of this serious issues how can you expect criminals to take the law seriously. The fight against this battle has to start from here.Either the law helds itself up or the victims will upheld the law. Either way a justified law has to prevail!!
Well these are just the root causes of the problem. I will write another post on some practical solutions.
Monday, February 27, 2012
एक कॉफ़ी की ही तो बात थी
एक कॉफ़ी के सहारे, उनमें सुर्ख लाली लाने की कहाँ बात थी !
सिर्फ नज़रें मिलाने की, दो बईमान इरादों की बात थी ,
एक कॉफ़ी ही तो थी,दबे तूफानों को जगाने की कहाँ बात थी!
मेरे देखे हुए ख्वाबों को, कहाँ पूरा करने की बात थी,
तेरे ही दिए हुए वादे में, साथ साथ एक कॉफ़ी की ही तो बात थी!
कुछ उधार बाकी है तेरा, चुकता करने की बात थी,
अस्सल अभी भी कॉफ़ी है, ब्याज चुकाने की कहाँ बात थी!
दिल्लगी और भी की है तूने , इस दिल लगाने वाले में कुछ तो बात थी,
इंतज़ार में आज भी है तेरे, वादे में एक कॉफ़ी की ही तो बात थी!
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
तेरे एक दीदार का मौसम बनें हैं
वोह आमोद भरी आँखें ,पर तस्सली के बेजान खंजर चाक करे हैं.
वोह पहली मुलाकात की बस यादें, मेरा नमकीन मरहम बने हैं ..
आमोद= Entertainment,Amusement
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
एक और देवदास तेरे इलज़ाम आना होगा
जिनको हमने होश ओ हवाश में अपना मुक्कम्मल खुदा बनाया,
वोह देखो तमाशे में मेरी मोहब्बत की नीलामी लगाये बैठे हैं!
अधूरे से अफ़साने में बेवफा की तोहमत भी नहीं दे सकता ...
मासूमियत के पीछे अदाओं से, वफाई शब्द वोह पाऊँ तले रोंदे बैठे हैं!
कसम तोड़ी क्यूँ तूने ,क्यूँ मृगनयनी के आगे जज़्बात झुकने दिए ,
जानकार भी , फितरत से वोह, उम्र भर मोहब्बत बदनाम किये बैठे हैं !
ख्वाबों का मंज़र वोह तुमने, हकीक़त में क्या खूब करीब महसूस कराया था ...
बेखबर हम,ख्वाब्गार और भी वोह कमसिन, प्रेम मायाजाल में फंसाए बैठे हैं !
एक देवदास और कारी बदनाम गलियों का तेरे इलज़ाम आना होगा ..
क्यूंकि, मेरे लहू के सूर्ख गुलाबों में, वोह सुहागरात सजाये बैठे हैं !
Friday, August 19, 2011
छलावे की टीस
छट गयी है बदली आज, एक धुप उमड़ उमड़ आई है.. फिर वही आगाज़ है,फिर वही तम्मानाएं अचेत होश में आई है! हसरत को उसने एक दिल्लगी बनायीं , छलावा हसीन वही पुराना है.. उफ़ का राही बनाकर आज़माइश करते रहिये , क़यामत तक बस यही एक दीवाना है! खून तेरे हाथों इतने की ,अब नए पुराने सारे माफ़ हैं... आशिकों के ढेर को, इस ज़माने को कंधे पर उठाना होगा! एक मेरा भी क़त्ल कर दो, कफ़न यह जज्बात मांगते हैं .... करम कर दो इतना,तेरे छलावे की टीस में रोज़ मरना अब गवारा न होगा !